What exactly is self-love? As individuals, cultures, and societies we have many defined ideas of what it means and “should” look like. I have learned much about the meaning of self-love and what it looks like as a young girl, as a teen, and now as an adult. Each year my connection, love, and respect for myself grow deeper, fuller.
In the last year, in particular, I’ve begun asking myself, “What do I feel I need at this moment? What will make me feel deeply nurtured, supported, cared for, and loved energetically, mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually?” I try to ask myself this every day. I want to meet my needs where they are at the moment. After all, our needs and energy are different each day, and at multiple points throughout each day.
I’ve been experimenting a little bit more over the last month with Self-Care Sunday. I know that my needs have varied deeply from week to week. This week the answer came in wanting to get a few little chores done around the house after my morning yoga routine and breakfast. Followed by a luxurious and replenishing shower filled with the feeling of the warm water on my skin, the steam soothing my muscles, and the delicious aroma of rose water tantalizing my senses.
I also felt called to come and share the reminder of the importance of self-care as we begin this new year full of ambition; ready to meet the new year with determination to bring in new energy and tackle new goals. Trust me, I get it. I have dipped my toes into the energy of 2022, as she calls to me to renovate many areas of my life; hobbies, my relationships, my habits, routines, and what and who I give my energy to.
I have felt her liveliness and magical essence, filling me with new hope, courage, and dreams for the year to come. I feel inspired to allow my energy to flow gently in the currents of each day, rather than trying to force things to happen when and how I want them to. It’s a lesson I’ve really been embracing. The word surrender gives a negative vibe to some…though it’s not about not having a say or not taking action towards the things that are important to me.
It’s about energetically showing up in a way that feels peaceful and aligned. I’m not trying to control every aspect or I’m not doing things just because I feel pressured by others, time, etc. I’m allowing myself to flow with what is inspiring me at the moment. I’m inviting curiosity in and allowing myself to play and find joy in the process. This has emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually made a difference in my energy and brought me a deep sense of inner peace and joy. This in and of itself is an act of self-love.
It allows the yin and yang energy to be energetically in harmony and my heart and soul to feel the bliss of the balance it seeks. I’m learning the value in less is more. I’ve learned that I don’t have to say yes to everyone and everything to make them feel happy because I’m afraid to rock the boat. No, that disturbs my inner peace and makes me feel out of alignment. I’m learning that I will say yes to what feels energetically in alignment and that it’s okay to change my mind on how, when, and what I want to do.
This year is about inviting more magic into the everyday in a way that feels playful, I want to show up allowing my inner child to be curious, creative, and inspired. I want to feel the magic of feeling nurtured, supported, cared for, and loved energetically, emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. I am choosing myself and by doing so, I’m inviting in more joy, love, inspiration, and creativity to share with others.
How are you choosing yourself this year; what magic are you inviting into your life so that you can show up fully nurtured and supported for yourself and your relationships with others this year?